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Moral injury is a boy being raised on high speed modern internet porn he hates but can’t stop looking at, being told he likes it and it’s his fault. Oh and don’t shame your abuser. They’re to be praised publicly.

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Rebecca, I hear you. Moral injury isn’t just about what happened—it’s about the break it causes inside, the way it pulls at everything we thought was solid. The hardest part isn’t even the guilt or the shame; it’s the isolation, the feeling of being severed from who we were before.

For me, the way through hasn’t been about fixing or erasing anything. It’s been about sitting with it, understanding what brought me here, and letting go of what was never mine to carry. That’s not easy work, AND it’s possible.

I put every single moral, belief, and value I encountered within me over the past four years on a pedestal, examined them 360°, traced their roots in me, in my family, and in history. After that, I rejected more than 90% as outdated, not mine, or misaligned with who I am. It’s a tedious process, requiring deep self-reflection, relentless self-inquiry, and the courage to redefine what is truly mine and what isn’t.

"Is this WHO I AM or is this HOW THEY WANTED ME TO BE?" That was the hardest question and the most difficult distinction.

I appreciate you bringing this forward. It matters.

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